Naysaying is devaluing or rejecting a suggestion without evaluating it fairly. “Nice try, nice idea but it’s never going to work.” “No way.” “Here we go again.” Sometimes it is more subtle and can be innocent questions, reminders of unforeseen impediments, and doubts. Naysaying holds back positive changes. And, it negatively impacts relationships. Nobody likes […]
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So much is about the way you think about it. Changing the way you think changes the way you feel. Instead of thinking “I should do this ….’, “I must do that …” it is much more effective to think “I could do that (or not).” This creates an opportunity to choose; having a choice
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Speak positively about your marriage. Often. Very often. To each other, to others, in public (appropriately). What we praise grows. Praise the time you’ve been together so far. Praise the life and home you have built together. Praise the tough times you’ve overcome together. The easy times. The happy times. Praise how your differences work
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Humor is such a powerful (yet underrated) trait. Humor can really help you get through some tough times. Humor relieves tension during crises. It lightens the mood and puts people at ease; when there’s tension in the room, humor helps you and the others to relax, think more clearly, and make better decisions. Humor softens
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When you live by your strengths and passions, you accomplish more and are happier. How to discover your hidden strengths: Ask yourself these questions. Use lots of details to really paint a picture. Write down your answers. It can be helpful to do this with a caring friend or your spouse. What are you proud
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While ultimately the goal is to have a better future, the process of getting there can make a huge difference. In the problem-solving model, we often get stuck by thinking and talking about a situation in a problem-focused way, paying much attention to the (causes in the) unwanted past. This can be demoralizing, and then
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What you give attention to will grow. Give positive reinforcement to what is working, and withhold attention from aspects that don’t work well. Think and talk about the positive in a situation rather than focus on what is wrong. You want the positivity to grow, not the negative aspects.
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Gratitude has the effect of helping us to refocus on positive emotions. Think about who you are in the moments when you are grateful. How do you show up? What are you doing? How are you behaving with yourself and others? Grateful, happy, positive. Want to be positive, strong, productive? Be grateful.
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Don’t just go through life, grow through life. Everyone will experience defeat or adversity at one time or another. Hashem intends for us to grow and gain strength, understanding and wisdom through struggle. Every adversity, every failure and every unpleasant experience carries within it the seed of some benefit, albeit oftentimes it is hidden, a
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Free yourself from the self-defeating energy of negative thoughts about someone. Think loving thoughts about someone you resent, wishing them good fortune and blessings. Pray that they receive all the wonderful things you want for yourself in life. Say it out loud, “Hashem: please give love, health and peace to [whomever] today.” Do this as
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