Things not going as you had envisioned or planned? You had expectations that didn’t quite pan out? “Yom Tov shouldn’t be this way”, “We should have had our parents for Yom Tov.”, “It’s not fair to have to do this and not be able to do that.” Allow yourself to feel the feeling for a […]
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Do what you have to do to leave that bad day behind and start a new day afresh. Everybody has bad days; it’s how we deal with them that makes us the type of person we are. Recognize that each day is a fresh start. You can start over every day. You don’t have to
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When we are having an intense discussion where each of us has opposing views (in other words, an argument or a fight), there is always the possibility that one of us, or both of us, may be flooded with intense feelings of fear, shame, anger, hurt, or upset. At that point, we may get emotionally
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Someone with a ‘transformation mindset’ embraces change as a natural part of life. It may not be easy, but that doesn’t mean it is awful or insurmountable. With a transformation mindset, you can deal constructively with change. – Reflect on changes you have successfully adapted to in the past, and tell yourself: “I have successfully
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An important tip for managing your stress is to understand the things you can control and to let go of the things you cannot. And you can control the letting go. Letting go isn’t about having the courage to release the past; it’s about having the wisdom and strength to embrace your present. Letting go
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Counterproductive thoughts are ones that distract you from your task and drain your motivation. It happens from time to time. The skill of Real-Time Resilience (RTR) is designed to obliterate these counterproductive thoughts to get back in the game. RTR can help you lower anxiety, anger, or other strong emotions enough so that one can
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Thought you might find this little factoid interesting on this fast day. All mental activity (i.e. thinking) requires energy, which is measured by calories. Studies posit that hard thinking can increase that caloric expenditure by 25%. Arguing is a mental activity – all that thinking of how and what to say. It also increases your
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We all need a vacation now and then. But all too often reality does not allow for us to actually go away on vacation. Of course, there is the staycation where you unwind and relax in your own home city. And the daycation, a day off (trip or other relaxing activity) that does not involve
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If it is truly a passing emotion, there may be no need to express it at all. If it is likely to grow into something larger, then share your feelings and thoughts about the issue while it is small and can be resolved easier (and probably quicker). If you push your feelings down and try
Express emotions at the first sign of emotional turmoil—when the issue is small. Read More »
Setbacks are part of the cycle of life. Don’t let these take you down. Setbacks are just a setup for a comeback – if you take advantage of the opportunity that was just handed to you in a guise of a setback. THE COMEBACK IS ALWAYS STRONGER THAN THE SETBACK. Sometimes when things are falling
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