Asking for what we want or need is an essential aspect of effective communication and building healthy relationships. By making a request, we provide the other person with the opportunity to understand our needs and potentially meet them. It’s like extending an invitation for them to consider our perspective and take action accordingly. F 💬”Would […]
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Patience is like the ‘wait’ training of life, where we flex our emotional muscles to handle whatever comes our way. Just as weight-training helps us build physical strength and endurance, practicing patience strengthens our mental resilience and emotional well-being. Life throws various challenges our way, and in those moments, we must take a deep breath,
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Eliminate unnecessary tasks and obligations. Many of us find ourselves juggling multiple roles and responsibilities, from work and family to community involvement and personal hobbies. This can easily lead to feelings of overwhelm, burnout, and even regrettable decisions. By learning to say “no” gracefully and prioritizing what truly matters, we can create space for rest,
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In challenging conversations, it can be difficult for someone to articulate their thoughts and feelings clearly. Therefore, it’s helpful to give your spouse some leeway to express themselves, even if they may not do so perfectly at first. Additionally, it’s crucial to acknowledge that when we are feeling upset or defensive, we may not be
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If we have a problem with our spouse’s behavior, it’s our problem. Even if what they are doing (or not doing) leads to unfavorable outcomes, it is still our problem. It is when we recognize that the problems we have with others are, in fact, our problems, that we stop trying to change them and
Don’t like your spouse’s behavior? It’s your problem. Read More »
It’s inevitable. There will be some areas where the two of you will never agree. These are likely based on either fundamental differences in your personalities, or fundamental differences in your lifestyle needs. It’s how you see the world. These are problems that you will return to again and again. They will never be solved.
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Sometimes we get upset at the small stuff (like dishes in the sink). Really it’s about issues that are emotionally much deeper, like not feeling needed, appreciated, noticed, important, or securely attached. Everyone wants to feel loved, safe, and secure. We may not know how to express it, or even realize it is happening, so
It’s not the small stuff, it’s really bigger. Read More »
Having an issue with someone? Ask yourself this question: “Do I have the same (or similar) issues with other people or only this specific person?” If it is just this one person, work through it together, or carefully extricate yourself from the situation or relationship. If you notice a pattern of how people behave towards
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Does your spouse wash the dishes in the wrong way? Do they know that? There really is no one right way to wash the dishes. It just might be that you have different ideas about how and when to wash the dishes. Neither of you is right or wrong; it’s your expectation that is the
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There are many times that we have different perspectives or different ideas of how things ought to be done. Sometimes, people agree to do something in a way that is different from what they really want. Just to avoid conflict or just shut down the conversation. “OK, fine! We’ll go to the airport 5 hours
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