With these unknowns, it is natural to feel fear, anxiety, confusion, and sadness. There’s a difference between worry and concern; it is all in how you are dealing with the negative situation. A difference in your thoughts and subsequent actions. WORRY feels out of control. It is repetitive, obsessive thoughts that seem to stay and […]
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Times are stressful, overwhelming and downright scary. Being cooped up can make someone feel stir-crazy. Being worried about loved ones or job security can make one anxious and testy. All feelings are valid, but they are not excuses for bad behavior. Take the time to breathe, to decompress, listen to music or let the house
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There are all these posts (and adverts) about using these days to learn a new language or skill, fill your Pesach freezer, finish a basement project, start a side hustle business. Look inwards and get to know yourself. Nice nice ideas. For some people that may actually happen. For the rest of us, we just
To do during these times … Get through the day. Read More »
It may be hard to keep order in these days. Stuck home all day, meals and more meals at home. Activities and more activities to keep yourselves and the kids busy. All that can add up to a mess. No one is judging. Clutter and mess can make us feel anxious and overwhelmed. It bombards
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There are so many unknowns now; the situation is fluid and changing soo rapidly, it is hard to plan for even the nearest future. There is a wide range of ways that people respond to uncertainty. For many the uncertainty is quite uncomfortable and others are having a good time making jokes. There is no
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“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” When your emotions are negative – anger, frustration, disappointment, etc. – the more you say, the higher the likelihood that there will be negative words and a negative aftermath. Rather, say less and listen more. Be curious about what
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So many of our anxieties are not founded in reality. Address the real issues and quiet those that are taking space in your head but are not productive. Create a two-column list. On one side list all your fears, uncertainties, and doubts (or FUD). “If I don’t do X, then Y.” “I don’t have any
Having anxiety? Separate your fears from facts. Read More »
Anger, in and of itself, is neither good nor bad. It’s what we do when we’re angry that matters. Anger is a tool that helps us to read and respond to situations that bother us. Many important and good changes in society were initiated because someone was angry about an injustice. You see something that
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Anger has several levels, ranging from the mildest to the severest. Awareness of these levels can help you better understand what it going on for you and you can better deal with your emotions and triggers. What is your anger temperature? Low: Irritated/ bothered/ annoyed: A person is irritated when something happens that they are
Understand your anger so you can work with it. Read More »
Name calling should never be part of your communication. Never. Find another way to express your feelings other than calling names. Even if something your spouse did or said was unwise or ineffective or brought negative repercussions, don’t ever resort to name calling. It attacks the other person. It damages the relationship. It won’t change
Name calling is hurtful. And it does not help anything. Ever. Read More »
