April 2023

Ask your spouse: “What types of boundaries or limits help you feel protected?” “How might I express a ‘no’ so that it feels acceptable?” “What are some boundaries that we ought to incorporate for our family?” Be brave, ask for insight and feedback: “What was a time when I expressed something with too much Gevurah? […]

How do you act with Gevurah in your marriage? 1. Boundaries? What are the healthy boundaries in your marriage? In what ways do you respect your spouse’s space, boundary and privacy – morally, psychologically or emotionally? Are you consistent? 2. Commitment? Do you use Gevurah and strength to continue giving kindness even when it is

Gevurah is saying no or yes at the right time. Every choice you make is like a seesaw; when you say ‘yes’ to one thing, you are saying ‘no’ to another. For example, if you are saying ‘yes’ to helping someone, you are saying ‘no’ to using that time for yourself. If you are saying

Gevurah is leaving some words unspoken. The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. You really don’t have to share everything you are thinking or feeling. So, your spouse chose the wrong way to say

Gevurah is holding back – if that is how your spouse likes it. Sometimes, you may want to give a gift or do something for your spouse (think: lavish gift or surprise party or public announcement). It may be something that you (and perhaps many others) would like or appreciate, but your spouse doesn’t. Then,

Literal definition: Strength. In other words: Restraint. Channeling. Focus. Discernment. Respect for boundaries. Discipline. Measured. Balanced. Expressions of Gevurah: Gevurah is about setting up boundaries and standards so that the kindness, love, giving and all activities in our lives have focus and direction; this is what yields success. Through Gevurah, we give the correct healthy

Ask your spouse: “What types of giving make you feel loved?” “What words are meaningful? What expressions of love really resonate with you (‘love language’)? What types of gifts do you appreciate?” “What are some things that I gave you – tiny and bigger – that you would like more of? “ Be brave, ask

How do you act with Chesed in your marriage? 1. Unconditionally? Do you give to your spouse – unconditionally … just to make them feel good … on their terms … without expecting anything in return? Do you express appreciation and give compliments – often and freely? The kind that they appreciate, not only the

Chesed is looking for ways to make your spouse happy. Ask yourself: “What can I do today to make my partner happy?” And do it. Do something that your spouse will never know about. Do it just because you love and care about your spouse. Not for reciprocation or out of guilt or obligation. Just

Chesed is loving your spouse in the way they prefer even if you don’t understand it. Hallmark, jewelers, chocolatiers and thousands of other marketers are telling us what gifts we ought to be wanting and giving to show our love. But those may not be what your spouse wants at all. Your spouse is unique